Why do Victims Stay in Abusive Relationships?
The reasons victims stay in abusive relationships are very complicated. There are a wide range of emotional feelings that allow the abuse to continue and prevent the victim from leaving. Here are a few reasons that victims stay in an abusive relationship:
- Fear – Victims fear the physical harm that might come if they attempt to leave.
- Love – Victims may truly have deep feelings for the abusive partner.
- Promises – Promises that this abuse will never happen again.
- Abuse = Love – Confusion between being loved and being controlled by their partner.
- Guilt – Being made to think that the abuse is their fault, that they have the problem.
- Not Being Believed – A strong fear that nobody will believe them if they speak out against the abuse.
- Thinking They Can Change Them – The belief that over time the victim can change the abusive partner.
- Low Self-Esteem – After being in an abusive relationship there is a feeling that they can do no better than their current relationship.
- Being Alone – To end the relationship could mean a loss of mutual friends, relatives and others associated with the relationship.
- Financial – Money, children and no place to go also hold victims in these relationships.